Right, I’ve had enough now
When I think about the marriage, I think the only thing that helped me and kept me in the marriage for 42 years was the children. When I look back on it, I did leave in the end, I wasn’t treated nicely at all, I really wasn’t. I think he was inclined to be very possessive. Even if I spoke to a man, gee was I in trouble. People were surprised when I said I was leaving, because I never said anything to anybody about my life, how bad it was. I just used to put up with it I suppose. He didn’t appreciate me I’m afraid. I did a lot for him.
With this virus you can sit and think about things, and this is what I’ve been doing. I thought I was never bothered about it, but I thought ‘gees, I put up with it for all those years’. He thought I was never going to leave. I was thinking of leaving once before and then I was thinking, ‘if I leave, he’ll probably commit suicide’. I wonder if he had a bit of bipolar because he could be very frightening. But then I kept thinking, the only way I can leave him is if he finds another lady. Lucky for me he did. He’d always been a flirt. He used to come home, get changed on a Friday night, and just go back to the Currumbin RSL. I seemed to think he was playing with a group of people there and going to parties and he obviously had women as well, but I didn’t know did I?
Then I found out he was seeing someone, I was still doing his dinners, although I was going to leave. I’d been in my own room for a little while anyway. So one night he came, I’ve got a photograph of it, and he threw the dinner outside. He used to do bad things. So I thought, ‘right, that’s it’. So I didn’t make any more dinners. I wasn’t buying anything in the fridge either because he wasn’t giving me any money either, but lucky for me I was the only one that used to save money, me, so I had some there. I also waited till I went on pension, so I got something when I was leaving. And that’s why I had to wait 12 months. Then he started having food in the fridge, so I thought, ‘oh she’s making that for him’. So she’s the one who got me out. I was so relieved. She helped me. It was wonderful. Although he was with her, he still never thought I was leaving.
I was in love with him still. If he wasn’t a drinker and what have you it would have worked out. We always went out and he was a dancer too, we loved dancing, and I never really fell out of love until that last day.
I should have married Brian Cooper and not Brian Cox! I met my husband first when I was about 17 and that went for a couple of years. Then we broke up and I met this other guy, Brian Cooper, very nice, was in the forces. Then the other one came back so I went on a date with him again. Then one weekend I had to stop and think which one am I going to have? And I chose the wrong one.
I’ve had quite a few boyfriends, about 9. I’ll tell you what it is though with men. They’re all right, and after 3 years, just forget about it and move on cause it gets boring. I don’t fall out with them. I’m still talking to all of them. I’ve just got dance partners, no boyfriend at the moment. There’s not many men around.
With an accent from her native Nottinghamshire, Christine is a tall, strong woman who loves to laugh, dance, and socialise. She grew up playing Robin Hood with her brother in Sherwood Forest, taking on the role of Maid Marian.